If you’re an avid follower of the blog, you know I have four children and would love to have more. I have always loved big families, and I honestly don’t consider us as a “big” family.
What do you find is a big family? Most people I know think a big family is 3+ children.
I have compiled a list of the most frequent (and annoying) things people say to parents of big families. If you cross paths with a big family, please, please DO NOT ask any of the following. Otherwise, you will receive a very sarcastic reply!
- “Are they all yours?” – No! I just like gathering up strange children and bringing them around town with me. *insert eye roll here*
- “You sure have your hands full”- Yes, I do, and so is my heart!
- “I could never have that many kids” – Good! Not everyone can handle having more than two children.
- “Are you done?” – No, are you done asking me annoying questions?
- “Were they all planned?” – Why is this any of your business?
- “Wow! You must really like kids” – Yes, I do, and you must really like asking annoying questions.
- “Do they all have the same father?” – Again, why is this anyone else’s business? Why do people automatically think that if you have more than two children, they all have different fathers?
- “Do you get any time for yourselves” – Well, it’s obvious that we do, seeing as we have four kids.
- “You do know there are ways to avoid getting pregnant, right?” – *GASP* REALLY? Thanks, I didn’t know!
Yes, these are actual things people have said (and continue to say) to other big families or us on a daily basis.
If you have ever said one of these, please JUST STOP IT! Parents of big families have heard these a million times, and we think it’s super annoying and most of the time, it’s rude.
Parent’s of larger families, what are the most annoying things people ask you? Let us know in the comments below!
I think you forgot one. Child labour went out with in the 50’s! My hubby’s dad came from a very large family. He was the 9th I believe out of 14. Now that is what I consider a very large family. People associate, or used to associate, large families with the “olden days” when the more kids they had, the more help they had around the household (usually a farm). Personally, I could care less how many kids someone has at least it’s not me. -lol-
It never ceases to amaze me how entitled people feel when expressing their opinions! #2 resonated with me though, about your heart being full. <3
I consider a big family to be four kids or more. I have two kids but I would have liked to have at least one more. I have two dogs instead. 😉 I can’t believe people say some of these things. “Do they all have the same father?” Wow! That’s bold.
Wow, I agree so much with you! I have 4 kids also – 9, 8, 2, and 4 months and we get some of these questions asked and other ones too; just as if not more annoying. I get ignorant w them sometimes. It’s no one’s business how many kids people choose to have. My mother in law is 1 of 14. 2 passed away though. My father in law is 1 of 7 i think. I know a family with 12 kids and one family with 10 kids. All very well behaved.